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How to Break Vanilla Conditioning

"Vanilla conditioning" is a term used in the BDSM Lifestyle to identify a set of limiting beliefs about ourselves and our sexuality that produce fear and shame. Essentially, the logic behind vanilla conditioning is that “vanilla” sex (which means different things to all vanillas) is the absolute standard of healthy sex, therefore anything outside of that is inherently unhealthy and will produce toxic results.

There are quite a few problems with this train of logic, however, that can ultimately help you see vanilla conditioning for what it really is and empower you to explore your kinky desires without shame once and for all!

And in part two, I dive into the main personal and relational fears that fuel us in fear to remain locked in this state of being that feels so stifling! ...and, how you can finally BREAK FREE of these lies!

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